Have you ever absolutely despised someone for a reason you couldn’t exactly pin point? Probably, it happens to the best of us. Maybe it’s that stuck up kid you went to middle school with, or maybe it’s that third cousin you have who you see every other Christmas. But if it’s none of those people, chances are it’s someone. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but it’s also not the best thing either. Regardless, it’s so important to do all that you can to be the bigger person.
Along with being the bigger person, it’s necessary to not let the poor relationship drag you down. Know that not everybody is going to like you, and when you come across that one person who you constantly bump heads with, don’t let it effect your learning environment.
I’m sure we’ve all heard the cheesy quote: “you hate me cause you ain’t me” and it sounds absolutely ridiculous. But once you’ve changed around the wording, and perceived the phrase a little bit differently, your idea of it might change. Think about the reasons you might dislike someone. Did they do something to hurt you? Did they get what you think you deserved? Do you hate how their eyes are that color green without contacts? A lot of the time, you dislike a person because you’re partially jealous of who they are or what they have.
Lets say your boyfriend broke up with you last week and gave you absolutely no type of explanation as to why. But suddenly, you hear that he has a new girlfriend. You don’t know the first thing about this girl, but you can’t stand her. Why? Because she has what you you want, and what you think you deserve for that matter. Think about it though, do you really deserve a boy who left you in the dark for somebody else? Not a chance; you deserve so much better. So why let the envy for some random person effect the way you’re focusing in school? Get them out of your head, and get your head in your books, they’re not worth it.
Now picture this: you’re the type of student who has gotten along with every teacher you’ve ever had since kindergarten. It’s your senior year and you’re walking in the hallway and you see your freshmen year Global Studies teacher and don’t even hesitate to say hello. But this year, you’ve come across the inevitable: that teacher you just can’t stand after twelve years of amazing luck. One might shut down completely and start to be totally disrespectful but here’s a suggestion: DON’T DO THAT. The key in a situation as uncomfortable as this one is go to class every single day and sit there in silence. Don’t make eye contact and don’t let whatever is being said get to you. Try your very best to focus as much as you possibly can and if it becomes too much, just zone out and get extra help later. It’s clear that you don’t have a great relationship with this one teacher, but think about it, you’ve been going to school for twelve years and this is the first one you have trouble getting along with. Just remember that it’s 42 minutes out of your day, 210 minutes a week, it’s not that bad. Sure, it sucks to have to deal with it when it’s just adding unnecessary stress to everything that you might be dealing with but you have to get a hold of the concept that not everyone is going to like you. You can’t let one bad class, one bad relationship, affect your ability to do well in a classroom environment. You have to do everything in your power to just let it go.
It’s always hard not liking someone but being forced to spend time. It’s also hard when you don’t like someone but never get to see them to tell them all of the things that you have bottled up inside. In your head, you have a perfectly logical explanation for not liking this person, even though plenty of other people have no issues with them. To you, these people are all wrong and your feelings are the only relevant ones.
You have to take a minute to be the bigger person. If you ever run into that stupid girl who made your boyfriend leave you, just bite your tongue and smile. When you’re sitting in class listening to that teacher you can’t stand try to teach the class, take your notes and keep your mouth shut. As hard as being the bigger person might be, in the end being the one to keep your cool always feels so much better. Think about it like this, if something is hard for you to do, there’s a pretty good chance that that’s the right thing to do.
No matter what, at some point in your life you’ll come across someone who gives you incredibly negative vibes. There will always be that one person, or two or three or fifteen that you just absolutely despise for reasons you may not even grasp yet, but you have to hold your own. People are going to try and push you down, but you just have to push a little bit harder to stay on your feet.
